A story I’ve kept to myself…

A story I’ve kept to myself—out of both shame and embarrassment—is that when my role with USA Cycling was coming to an end, and the program I had built was falling apart, I was under so much stress that I truly understood why people consider suicide. I didn’t want to die; I just wanted the emotional pain to stop.

We all have our limits when it comes to emotional stress, and I found myself right on the edge of mine. I cared so deeply about my athletes and wanted nothing more than for the program to succeed—and no amount of willpower or determination could make it happen.

Getting through that time wasn’t something I could have done alone. It took the unwavering support of my amazing wife, Sara, my close friends, and especially the men in my support group to help me move past the shame, stress, and sadness of what I had convinced myself was a failure.

I’m not sharing this for sympathy, but because I believe so strongly in the importance of finding your tribe. Having a support system isn’t just nice to have—it’s vital, especially in challenging times.

That’s why, in addition to my work as a founder and leadership coach, I run men’s support groups. These groups aren’t just helpful—they’re lifesaving. I’m deeply passionate about helping men cultivate healthier, more mature masculinity, build deeper friendships, and become better fathers, partners, and friends.

If you or someone you know is struggling, please don’t go through it alone. Reach out to me, or encourage them to call:

☎️ 988 (USA & Canada)

☎️ 0800 587 0800 (UK)

You’re not alone, and you don’t have to face this alone.